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Post by archaznable on Nov 29, 2005 19:21:39 GMT 8
question. pag nakipag break ba kayo ganu katgal kayo maka recover? it depends because if you still have feelings on the girl that you love it was still there and you can't escape on it. The only thing that you can escape on it is don't think about it. Just focus on your career path or work or whatever hobbies that you have and it will surely go away. But mind you if you are always feeling lonely there are a still a little chance or a possibility that you will bring back the memories of your past with the girl because its hard to be so lonely.  |
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Post by Anakin Skywalker on Nov 29, 2005 19:24:42 GMT 8
To check: its all up to you really.. no one can tell if youshould give up or move on... You can tell if you are ready... ^^
TO UOP: True. sumtimes, we all need sumone to share our problems even a just a little. So we can breath easier a bit. ^^
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Post by Adelaine on Nov 29, 2005 19:29:14 GMT 8
@anakin: Haha, I thought the Brag or Gripe was the most replied-to thread? ;D
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Post by Checkmate! on Nov 29, 2005 19:38:53 GMT 8
question. pag nakipag break ba kayo ganu katgal kayo maka recover? it depends because if you still have feelings on the girl that you love it was still there and you can't escape on it. The only thing that you can escape on it is don't think about it. Just focus on your career path or work or whatever hobbies that you have and it will surely go away. But mind you if you are always feeling lonely there are a still a little chance or a possibility that you will bring back the memories of your past with the girl because its hard to be so lonely. i'm thinking of returning everything that she gave me. all the letters and gifts. why? ewan ko. right now galit ako and gusto ko siya sktan and my other reason naman eh sobra nalulungkot lang ako pag nakikita ko yung mga yun. |
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Post by patacat on Nov 29, 2005 22:36:42 GMT 8
question. pag nakipag break ba kayo ganu katgal kayo maka recover? its been four or five months now since my last break up and i still havent fully recovered. i dont know when its gonna pass. maybe that's just the way it is when you truly love someone and they leave you. the feeling of being left for whatever reason never really goes away. |
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Post by patacat on Nov 29, 2005 22:45:56 GMT 8
question. pag nakipag break ba kayo ganu katgal kayo maka recover? hmmm.... I'd say... Madali lang... IF I PUT MY MIND INTO GAMES AND ANIME OR SOMETHING... Pero if I have nothing to do... but think... feel... and think some more... Matagal... Then again... We have little or no power over our emotions so... we can never really tell... it depends on what kind of relationship you came out from... i guess... i dunno... you know what twisted? i have been doing this to forget or get over things. hang out with friends more often, play games, go out, focus on work. but at the end of the day, when you're left alone again, the memories come back and everything is as bad as before. maybe now that its been months since my break up i can tolerate things a little more than i used to. but i can never say that things are back to normal. |
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Post by archaznable on Nov 29, 2005 23:00:35 GMT 8
hmmm.... I'd say... Madali lang... IF I PUT MY MIND INTO GAMES AND ANIME OR SOMETHING... Pero if I have nothing to do... but think... feel... and think some more... Matagal... Then again... We have little or no power over our emotions so... we can never really tell... it depends on what kind of relationship you came out from... i guess... i dunno... you know what twisted? i have been doing this to forget or get over things. hang out with friends more often, play games, go out, focus on work. but at the end of the day, when you're left alone again, the memories come back and everything is as bad as before. maybe now that its been months since my break up i can tolerate things a little more than i used to. but i can never say that things are back to normal. i think we have something in common here patacat i've been going with my friends more often also and hang out with them at night or if they have gimmicks. But at the end of the day mostly at night sometimes i can't sleep, and im crying on my own, tears falling down, so lonely at night cause you still remember your good ol happy days with the girl and wishing that you could turn back the time and be happy again. *sigh ....  |
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Post by patacat on Nov 29, 2005 23:09:30 GMT 8
hang in there dude. things are gonna get better. i didnt think so at first but they eventually did. just take it one day at a time.
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Post by Checkmate! on Nov 30, 2005 5:15:29 GMT 8
question. pag nakipag break ba kayo ganu katgal kayo maka recover? hmmm.... I'd say... Madali lang... IF I PUT MY MIND INTO GAMES AND ANIME OR SOMETHING... Pero if I have nothing to do... but think... feel... and think some more... Matagal... Then again... We have little or no power over our emotions so... we can never really tell... it depends on what kind of relationship you came out from... i guess... i dunno... eh nag tetext pa siya now na namimiss niya ako. |
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Post by Checkmate! on Nov 30, 2005 5:16:53 GMT 8
you know what twisted? i have been doing this to forget or get over things. hang out with friends more often, play games, go out, focus on work. but at the end of the day, when you're left alone again, the memories come back and everything is as bad as before. maybe now that its been months since my break up i can tolerate things a little more than i used to. but i can never say that things are back to normal. i think we have something in common here patacat i've been going with my friends more often also and hang out with them at night or if they have gimmicks. But at the end of the day mostly at night sometimes i can't sleep, and im crying on my own, tears falling down, so lonely at night cause you still remember your good ol happy days with the girl and wishing that you could turn back the time and be happy again. *sigh .... good thing you have firends there. dito mahirap. at least may work ako. why ba kayo nag break up? |
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Post by patacat on Nov 30, 2005 5:35:58 GMT 8
good thing you have firends there. dito mahirap. at least may work ako. why ba kayo nag break up? who's the question for? me or arch or is it for everyone? hehehe. why did we break up? i don't know. my EX never gave me any real reason. we had a fight over something small. we hardly talked for a month after the fight. i called her up and she just said it was over. she gave me a number of reasons why. but nothing big that we were never able to work out before. she did give me a second chance, or something like it, saying that she was considering getting back with me. she suddenly had one bad day and threw all her frustrations at me and the next thing i knew that was it. my second chance was gone. i was really hoping that we'd get back together and was totally devastated after finding out that we will never be. i kept asking why she didnt want to get back together but all she said was that now's not the time to talk about it. i guess ill never get an answer from her. |
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Post by Adelaine on Nov 30, 2005 13:52:47 GMT 8
Hmmm.... ya know, this is just hearsay from idon'trememberwhere, but i've heard a lot of girls say that guys are very dense (not meaning everyone is of course). And ...speaking as a girl... well, a lot of us are hopeless romantics, and maybe, just maybe some girls secretly wish that her b/f could pick up on her moods/thoughts as well. Maybe not outright read her thoughts, but at least have an idea of what she likes, how she deals with things... and most importantly, how to handle her properly. And if she decides that you don't quite meet up to her expectations, or that she doesn't know how she can live up to yours, then... well... sometimes she just can't find the words or the guts or both to tell you. Hey, she's human too.
And it's true that... well... most breakups do begin from a lack of communication. The thing is, unless you've known each other for years and have totally built up your trust for each other, if you don't speak or at least magparamdam(eng trans?) every now and then, an unusual silence from the significant other is almost always a bad sign.
Just one more thing I've noticed, but a few of the couples I know tend to fight over the seemingly smallest things that you wouldn't fight over with, say, your best friend. Well... I think there may be two reasons for this: first, the little annoyances tend to get bottled up, and when those little things have piled up, it only takes a hairline trigger to make someone angry. Getting angry over something small sometimes just hides a bigger hurt underneath.
Also, maybe it's because if you're in a relationship, you can't help but have expectations out of your partner--expectations that you wouldn't impose on anyone else. It's like, you have to keep working at the relationship, unlike with your friends where you can just be yourself. I'm not saying you can't be yourself with your b/f or g/f, heck no, but I mean that there are times you have to put extra effort into keeping together. It's uber-rare to see a couple (even those who are "MFEO") that don't have to work at their relationship.
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Post by archaznable on Nov 30, 2005 14:48:51 GMT 8
i guess everybody here have a lot in common in there relationship . . . . are there any such thing as a true perfect relationship that doesn't have ups and downs? |
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Post by patacat on Nov 30, 2005 14:50:47 GMT 8
to adelaine: the "not communicating" part, i actually tried contacting her the next day after the fight and continued to every now and then. i just figured that she was still angry that was why she never replied, until that day i called. when we finally got to talk she then told me taht she had wanted to break up long before. she just didnt know how to tell me. maybe i was too dense huh?
and there may be some truth to your theory of getting annoyed about little things due to a bigger hurt lying inside. we both have been acting up this way months before the break up happened. we fight almost every week, or everyday m not sure anymore. so i guess it was just about time we did break up. we both knew it deep down, we just didnt realize it until that point. the only thing is, that last month that we didnt speak before the break up made me contemplate on some things. one of which was how much i really loved her. that was the reason why i was so affected when we broke up.
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Post by Adelaine on Nov 30, 2005 14:50:57 GMT 8
Not even fiction has that. ;D
If it'll make you feel any better... sometimes it's the girl who's the dense one of the pair. And I think that's true in my case.
"You only miss someone after they're gone" syndrome? Lame quote, but I guess it's true.
For my part, if I were in a relationship, I'd want him to talk to me even if we're blazing mad at each other. Because the one wrong that is hardest to undo is taking people for granted. And that saying goes for both of you.
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