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Post by raps on Jan 20, 2007 7:23:22 GMT 8
Married guy here, we also have a baby. I'm an avid Gundam kit collector too, back when I was still single. Back then, I used to buy a kit every month. After transferring to a different place because of my job, I stopped and gave away all my kits to my friends. Now that I'm back in Manila, I started the hobby again but I got married after a few months. Here's my say on the matter: Getting married will really set you back on your hobby. But what's more important, your family or your hobby? Obviously, it's your family. Slow down on your collection dude, there are more important things in life than collecting kits. Remember, this is a hobby, not a necessity. Prioritize the better and most important things in your life so that you and your family will get along, together with your Gundam hobby of course.  Yup I might slowdown or just get rid of this hobby someday... but for now I just want her to accept my hobby then after that eventually I'm gonna give-up this hobby and just be a retired gundam collector.... thanks so much.... |
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Post by raps on Jan 20, 2007 7:27:16 GMT 8
Well, I'd ask my self the following questions: 1. Do I have enough money to keep collecting and still be financially stable with regards to family needs? 2. Do I spend more quality time with my family and only build things when I'm free from any obligations? 3. Do I have enough space to organize my collection? If you answered "yes" to all of the above questions, I think you should continue. But, if your wife still insists that you stop for some unknown reason, choose her. <.< That a nice one... Of course I'm gonna choose her... and spend quality time with my family instead of building kits.... thanks..... |
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Post by archaznable on Jan 20, 2007 9:34:58 GMT 8
raps bro suggest dont slowdown on your hobby I think this hobby might also help you someday cause you can also give this hobby to your son if you were gonna have one. Maybe someday your son might also have an interest in your hobby and share a little bonding on building kits or maybe when he or she is older he or she might join GT members as well hehehe .... I think its just a matter of balancing theory on quality time other than soloing your hobby. There is a time for everything. Here's an example of mine my brother also used to build kits (not Gundam but Tanks of World War II) I saw he's entire collection and also right now he has a wife and two kids going to school. Right now he's still building and buying kits for his hobby but not too often. So suggest don't stop your hobby its good talk everything about it balance everything when the time comes and it will gonna be alright.  I tell yah hobby is good ..... ;D
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Post by MG Collector on Jan 20, 2007 11:07:44 GMT 8
Hey! Stop for a while...you can always go back after a year or so...your future wife will understand your situation after that. It worked for me...my wife understands me well...very well infact. Just buy those ones that you like and don't collect and collect. Just those nice one will do. (been doing that lately and she never complains) Happy married life bro! Welcome to the club!!!
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Post by jnthn on Jan 20, 2007 11:15:58 GMT 8
mostly married here huh? how's the afterlives? just kidding! well i'm still single and enjoying this newly found hobby....but i am looking for a gf though, it's been awhile....know some girl(s) to hook me up with? hey i'll be goin' back to the phils this year so we can meet up!! hehe....
anyways, i know i'll get there someday....and when she asks me to stop this hobby, i'll fire back and make a good excuse like, would you rather see me out there with my friends doing some stupid stuff and a possibility of me hookin' up with some girls or me staying home with you and building gundams? or just blunty say, NO GUNDAM, NO SEX!!
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Post by no3Ljm on Jan 20, 2007 13:34:39 GMT 8
wow! i never imagined someone will post the same issues i'm having right now. hehehe. ;D ok. first, congratulations to us! and best wishes too, bro. i'm also excited too to start my own family. the love, sacrifices, happiness, gentleness and warmth of having a family, i think, will be a BLAST!
second, i think, everyone said it na -- that Family will always be the FIRST priority than our 'precious hobby'. so what i will post is just an ADD-ON insight na lang. 
from the start i know that once i got married, this collections of mine will come to a halt. but it doesn't mean that it will end there. i'm sure in time, in the future, once you settled with married life, the urge will come back. i bet it will. i think i will not call this a 'hobby' anymore. it's an addiction na rin eh. the addiction on buying and collecting. but this time naman, you'll have more control na. because you will think the needs of your family first. magiging monetary/budget conscious ka na rin. but if you have a stable income naman, i don't think buying 1 or 2 kits a month will hurt your budget. as long na pasok sa budget, it's ok.
third, our partner issues on the hobby. some of us have partners who doesn't understand our hobby. and some of us have partners who understands. lucky to those who have an understanding partner. i'm wishing for the latter too. but it doesn't mean that having a partner that understands your hobby is a-ok palagi. ofcourse, even though they understand that, they still have concerns too. di lang nila sinasabi. it's a girl thing, i think. they'll let you realize it on your own what's the important thing in their 'silent way'. and yup, it's a girl thing, alright.
fourth, when you get tired of petty quarrels, sakit nang ulo sa mga kids, etc. this is our outlet, di ba? it's better to build gundam kits or buy toys/figures than use it sa mga unneccesary vices like beers, cigs, etc.
and lastly, you can still go back to this hobby once you're settled naman. as long that it will not messed up with the budget, right? we'll just have to sacrifice lang a little on the new and upcoming releases during our so-called 'hiatus'. malay mo, once you returned, all the MG ver.2 kits has been released. it's a good thing that you didn't buy the 'old versions' di ba?
my advice on the moment is buy the kits/figures you want while you're not married yet. atleast, there's some toys that you can hold onto while your on hiatus di ba? like me, for example, i'm crumming up coz i'm getting all the extra kits that i like before the marriage. so that, magalit man si komander later on, nandyan na yan. hoping that my future wife will not stop me from buying AoZ related kits. hahaha. ;D atleast, i'll have some unbuilt kits to look forward to just in case magkaron nang petty quarrels. di maiiwasan yun eh. may outlet na ako. j/k
nweiz, my final remark on this topic... wouldn't be great to see you and your son building a PG Gundam kit together?
my 2 centavoses.
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Post by vic01 on Jan 20, 2007 18:52:30 GMT 8
Ohh, nice topic here huh? ;D Well, im not married yet nor have a GF, sad, but if I am to settle down, all i can do is to balance and set my priorities if I choose to keep this hobby and collecting. But I still give lots of time for my family and this hobby is just second. You don't have to stop but slow down a bit since building kits will take lotsa time and efforts on thier own. I just hope our girls will understand our hobby coz others don't based on some people I know. I don't wanna make a lot of efforts on building kits instead I will give lots of massages to my love, ayt?! And you'll be rewarded! And if I already have children, even a daughter, I will introduce this Gundam hobby to them as this will boost their creativity and instead of getting into vices, they will just spend their free time on designing and building a model. A good recreation activity. Congrats on everybody who are getting married! May you have an everlasting relationship and with some Gundams on the bedroom, haha! ;D vic01 |
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Post by raps on Jan 21, 2007 14:52:52 GMT 8
raps bro suggest dont slowdown on your hobby I think this hobby might also help you someday cause you can also give this hobby to your son if you were gonna have one. Maybe someday your son might also have an interest in your hobby and share a little bonding on building kits or maybe when he or she is older he or she might join GT members as well hehehe .... I think its just a matter of balancing theory on quality time other than soloing your hobby. There is a time for everything. Here's an example of mine my brother also used to build kits (not Gundam but Tanks of World War II) I saw he's entire collection and also right now he has a wife and two kids going to school. Right now he's still building and buying kits for his hobby but not too often. So suggest don't stop your hobby its good talk everything about it balance everything when the time comes and it will gonna be alright. I tell yah hobby is good ..... ;D I guess I can just can't stop that instant but I'll have to cut-off a little... thanks.... your bro is a lucky guy to still find time for his hobby after having 2 kids... |
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Post by raps on Jan 21, 2007 14:59:15 GMT 8
Hey! Stop for a while...you can always go back after a year or so...your future wife will understand your situation after that. It worked for me...my wife understands me well...very well infact. Just buy those ones that you like and don't collect and collect. Just those nice one will do. (been doing that lately and she never complains) Happy married life bro! Welcome to the club!!! Thanks for the advice... I guess that will work, just stop for a while then go back hehehe!!! Wow!!! Am I being welcome as a Gundam collector married club.... |
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Post by raps on Jan 21, 2007 15:03:07 GMT 8
mostly married here huh? how's the afterlives? just kidding! well i'm still single and enjoying this newly found hobby....but i am looking for a gf though, it's been awhile....know some girl(s) to hook me up with? hey i'll be goin' back to the phils this year so we can meet up!! hehe.... anyways, i know i'll get there someday....and when she asks me to stop this hobby, i'll fire back and make a good excuse like, would you rather see me out there with my friends doing some stupid stuff and a possibility of me hookin' up with some girls or me staying home with you and building gundams? or just blunty say, NO GUNDAM, NO SEX!! Haha!!! No Gundam, No Sex!!! that will make me crazy.... I guess I'm gonna see you in Pinas if your going back this year.... |
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Post by raps on Jan 21, 2007 15:15:46 GMT 8
wow! i never imagined someone will post the same issues i'm having right now. hehehe. ;D ok. first, congratulations to us! and best wishes too, bro. i'm also excited too to start my own family. the love, sacrifices, happiness, gentleness and warmth of having a family, i think, will be a BLAST!
second, i think, everyone said it na -- that Family will always be the FIRST priority than our 'precious hobby'. so what i will post is just an ADD-ON insight na lang.
from the start i know that once i got married, this collections of mine will come to a halt. but it doesn't mean that it will end there. i'm sure in time, in the future, once you settled with married life, the urge will come back. i bet it will. i think i will not call this a 'hobby' anymore. it's an addiction na rin eh. the addiction on buying and collecting. but this time naman, you'll have more control na. because you will think the needs of your family first. magiging monetary/budget conscious ka na rin. but if you have a stable income naman, i don't think buying 1 or 2 kits a month will hurt your budget. as long na pasok sa budget, it's ok.
third, our partner issues on the hobby. some of us have partners who doesn't understand our hobby. and some of us have partners who understands. lucky to those who have an understanding partner. i'm wishing for the latter too. but it doesn't mean that having a partner that understands your hobby is a-ok palagi. ofcourse, even though they understand that, they still have concerns too. di lang nila sinasabi. it's a girl thing, i think. they'll let you realize it on your own what's the important thing in their 'silent way'. and yup, it's a girl thing, alright.
fourth, when you get tired of petty quarrels, sakit nang ulo sa mga kids, etc. this is our outlet, di ba? it's better to build gundam kits or buy toys/figures than use it sa mga unneccesary vices like beers, cigs, etc.
and lastly, you can still go back to this hobby once you're settled naman. as long that it will not messed up with the budget, right? we'll just have to sacrifice lang a little on the new and upcoming releases during our so-called 'hiatus'. malay mo, once you returned, all the MG ver.2 kits has been released. it's a good thing that you didn't buy the 'old versions' di ba?
my advice on the moment is buy the kits/figures you want while you're not married yet. atleast, there's some toys that you can hold onto while your on hiatus di ba? like me, for example, i'm crumming up coz i'm getting all the extra kits that i like before the marriage. so that, magalit man si komander later on, nandyan na yan. hoping that my future wife will not stop me from buying AoZ related kits. hahaha. ;D atleast, i'll have some unbuilt kits to look forward to just in case magkaron nang petty quarrels. di maiiwasan yun eh. may outlet na ako. j/k
nweiz, my final remark on this topic... wouldn't be great to see you and your son building a PG Gundam kit together?
my 2 centavoses.
Very nice advice bro not just for me but to others that gonna get married soon... I like that plan, that your already buying kits before your marriage hahaha!!! Oo nga nman nandyan na... she can't do anything hehehe!!!... Yup by the time we got back to this hobby bandai already release Version 2.0... Congrats din sayo bro... I just wish we both have a successful relationship with our wife... |
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Post by redranger on Jan 24, 2007 13:09:27 GMT 8
congrats rapido on getting married...welcome to the married hobbyists club..
when i started collecting toys, my wife was my gf first and she understood me coz she knows i like collecting toys...sometimes we share on the money on buying the toys...when we got married 3 years ago she told me to save and balance the money we have which i did so that she wouldnt get angry at me....
last year i asked her if i could build my own toy shelf and she agreed with me coz we needed also a cabinet for our clothes and for our baby's clothes as well....
right now we're expecting our first born child and i promised my wife that i will continue to buy my toys and make way for our baby coz we're both very excited...she was happy and she was proud of me....coz i can see if ever our baby was a boy we wouldnt have any problems on buying his toys coz i already bought my toys and still contiuning to collect just for our son....
family first ika nga...then ur toys....toys are toys...they're just around..they wont disappear...
the most impt thing really is your wife and child(ren)
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Post by Chaoz on Jan 24, 2007 14:31:08 GMT 8
OMG red your married?!?!? O.o!?
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Post by redranger on Jan 24, 2007 16:42:39 GMT 8
yup Chaoz...i am married and my wife's pregnant..proud daddy here...
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Post by viper2391 on Jan 24, 2007 16:57:39 GMT 8
First of all I'm getting married soon and I'm confuse if I'm gonna stop or continue collecting Gundam model kits which I really love... I know some of you are already married... any suggestions or I'll end-up being a closet Gundam collector and anime fan... hehehe!!!... On the brighter side she knows about my hobby... I'll appreciate any suggestions or experiences that I can get just to clear up my mind about this matter.... Well congratulations! First of all I don't collect Gundams but I do collect TF and some WWE figures. We all know that we have to slow down on expenses once married since we have other priorities now. There are some things that you can change and some things that you can't. For me I can never stop collecting coz its not only my hobby and vice but my passion as well. Now how did I deal with it? Its really just a matter of communicating it to your better half. The key is negotiate and not complain or argue coz this will result in a fight trust me. ;D Change your collecting habbit. If you collect every figure in every line before now that your married choose only the things you really like and save up for it. Don't be a compulsive buyer always think 5 times. Remember that family comes first. We all need to sacrifice sometimes and who knows once your wife appreciates the sacrifice you are doing maybe she'll get you a figure you want come your birthday or Christmas. Who knows? The lesson: - Don't ever think of quitting or stopping collecting but do slow down. - Pass the habit to your children - And the most important, before you die, open up your collection and play with it for the last time. I know that's what I'm gonna do to my TF collection 00 - 21 ;D ;D ;D ;D |
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I tell yah hobby is good ..... ;D
Don't stop making those NEW MG's BANDAI!!! 
