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Post by raps on Jan 19, 2007 15:40:15 GMT 8
First of all I'm getting married soon and I'm confuse if I'm gonna stop or continue collecting Gundam model kits which I really love... I know some of you are already married... any suggestions or I'll end-up being a closet Gundam collector and anime fan... hehehe!!!... On the brighter side she knows about my hobby... I'll appreciate any suggestions or experiences that I can get just to clear up my mind about this matter....
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Post by zephon on Jan 19, 2007 16:29:01 GMT 8
I got married last 2005. Prior to that, I was collecting gundam Fix and 1/100 kits. Yes, she knows about my hobby but doen't necessarily condone it.
If you're gonna buy toys, make sure it just YOUR money -- not your joint account's funds or your wife's money. Put in mind that P1,500 is enough for a week's worth of groceries already but is just enough for a low/mid-range kit.
Are you going to move out of your house and live in your own place? Do you have shelf space for the toys you have and are planning to buy? Are you going to display them in the living room? Are you keeping them in the master bedroom? Are you going to display it or keep them in boxes? We rent a small 2 bedroom apartment and the toys are kept on a shelf in the 2nd bedroom.
Once you and your wife are living together, when do you plan to build kits? Do you still plan to paint those kits?
Experiences?
I'm still paying my credit card bills from my buying spree.
Between spending time with my (pregnant) wife, work and even fixing the house, I can't find time to assemble even a HG kit (how much more a MG kit). I'm now collecting TF's.
I used to assemble zoids but they occupy too much space and the basic models have a low re-sale value so I sold them off! I'm also streamlining my collection so I got rid of my Macross collection and most of my FIX and I'm selling all of my zoids.
My shelf at home is full already -- I've got toys in my office table already.
By all means continue collecting Gundams....but if you're on a small fixed income like me, it's naturally gonna scale back.
Congratulations!
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Post by r2d2t2 on Jan 19, 2007 17:15:00 GMT 8
im still single but ill get there someday. believe me, i can relate coz my gf is not very supportive of my hobby. she wanted me to stop. i tried... but i just cant. i ended up buying more. with all those great kits being released monthly, who can stop?
anyway, to answer your dilemma, do not close the doors to your collection. of course, family is your priority above all else and your toy purchase may be limited but dont close the doors just yet.
may the force be with you.
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Post by xentar on Jan 19, 2007 18:02:09 GMT 8
same here... my wife doesn't agree with my hobby.... i just show her that what ever happens, my family always comes first.... and its only a hobby where i release all the tension in work... although, the budget on Gunpla becomes tighter and even no kits to build for a month or so. i also buy only the kits that i really like and i think its worth the money. there was this time when i tried to let her help me to build my MG crossbone and what do you know.... it end up.. her hogging the bandai cutter and wanted to finish the kit by her self.... ;D ;D ;D
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Post by Chainer on Jan 19, 2007 18:53:15 GMT 8
i feel for you guys... but its always good to talk to our better halves... "speak softly... and carry a big stick!"... lol.. just kidding... but seriously... my toy budget usually comes from what i save from my allowance (yes, like college days, i have a weekly allowance)... then i asked my wife that my night diff pay would be mine... she agreed. yey!
there is nothing wrong with a hobby, but a few adjustments are always good... and as xentar and the rest of the guys said "family always comes first"
btw... congrats bro... so when shall we welcome you to the club?
-wel
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Post by raps on Jan 19, 2007 19:15:21 GMT 8
I got married last 2005. Prior to that, I was collecting gundam Fix and 1/100 kits. Yes, she knows about my hobby but doen't necessarily condone it. If you're gonna buy toys, make sure it just YOUR money -- not your joint account's funds or your wife's money. Put in mind that P1,500 is enough for a week's worth of groceries already but is just enough for a low/mid-range kit. Are you going to move out of your house and live in your own place? Do you have shelf space for the toys you have and are planning to buy? Are you going to display them in the living room? Are you keeping them in the master bedroom? Are you going to display it or keep them in boxes? We rent a small 2 bedroom apartment and the toys are kept on a shelf in the 2nd bedroom. Once you and your wife are living together, when do you plan to build kits? Do you still plan to paint those kits? Experiences? I'm still paying my credit card bills from my buying spree. Between spending time with my (pregnant) wife, work and even fixing the house, I can't find time to assemble even a HG kit (how much more a MG kit). I'm now collecting TF's. I used to assemble zoids but they occupy too much space and the basic models have a low re-sale value so I sold them off! I'm also streamlining my collection so I got rid of my Macross collection and most of my FIX and I'm selling all of my zoids. My shelf at home is full already -- I've got toys in my office table already. By all means continue collecting Gundams....but if you're on a small fixed income like me, it's naturally gonna scale back. Congratulations! Thanks so much for the advise and experience... I guess if we move to a smaller place to rent... (which is already expensive) I might as well keep it in boxes... I don't know yet if I'm gonna sell some of it... And your right my wife will be my priority... I can't imagine myself building model kit while my wife is pregnant... and buying kits instead of necessities that we need... Thanks so much I'll keep that in mind... |
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Post by raps on Jan 19, 2007 19:22:26 GMT 8
im still single but ill get there someday. believe me, i can relate coz my gf is not very supportive of my hobby. she wanted me to stop. i tried... but i just cant. i ended up buying more. with all those great kits being released monthly, who can stop? anyway, to answer your dilemma, do not close the doors to your collection. of course, family is your priority above all else and your toy purchase may be limited but dont close the doors just yet. may the force be with you. I have the same experience right now about my hobby and she's also not supportive... I don't know if she's jealous about my hobby or what huhuhu.... She ever tease me like "do you want to play with your gundams or play with me"... thanks for the advise, yup family comes first... |
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Post by raps on Jan 19, 2007 19:31:33 GMT 8
same here... my wife doesn't agree with my hobby.... i just show her that what ever happens, my family always comes first.... and its only a hobby where i release all the tension in work... although, the budget on Gunpla becomes tighter and even no kits to build for a month or so. i also buy only the kits that i really like and i think its worth the money. there was this time when i tried to let her help me to build my MG crossbone and what do you know.... it end up.. her hogging the bandai cutter and wanted to finish the kit by her self.... ;D ;D ;D I'll keep that in mind just kits that I really like and make my wife love my hobby hehehe!!! Sounds a good plan to me... thanks a lot.... |
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Post by raps on Jan 19, 2007 19:42:08 GMT 8
i feel for you guys... but its always good to talk to our better halves... "speak softly... and carry a big stick!"... lol.. just kidding... but seriously... my toy budget usually comes from what i save from my allowance (yes, like college days, i have a weekly allowance)... then i asked my wife that my night diff pay would be mine... she agreed. yey! there is nothing wrong with a hobby, but a few adjustments are always good... and as xentar and the rest of the guys said "family always comes first" btw... congrats bro... so when shall we welcome you to the club? -wel That's a nice one buying kits from your night diff hehehe!!! same here I'm working nightshift too... (bsta mka-lusot lng) hehehe!!!... This year will not end that I'm gonna leave my single life... thanks so much.... |
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Post by Jaybats on Jan 19, 2007 20:58:49 GMT 8
FACT: After getting married, the probabilities are high that you will slow down, if not completely stop, you hobby. PREVENTION: Only way to prevent this is if (1) you have lots of disposable income left even after attending to your marital obligations, (2) your wife actually likes your hobby as much as you do, (3) you hobby is actually your source of income. GOOD INDICATIONS: (1) Income level way above average, (2) wife even buys the stuff for you BAD INDICATIONS: (1) Current income level supports only your own spending habits, (2) wife is silent/has no comment about your hobby WHAT YOU REALLY NEED TO THINK ABOUT: Are you willing to give this up for her? ON THE OTHER HAND: You also need to consider what you are getting from the marriage, in exchange for losing the hobby, like a new life, a constant companion, sex on demand, etc. LEGAL ADVICE: If you still go ahead, after all this, and you still want to try to maintain your hobby, sign a Pre-nuptial Agreement.  |
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Post by qb on Jan 19, 2007 21:24:47 GMT 8
Not yet married but I guess I'm one of the few who has a gf who actually supports my hobby. She's often with me whenever I go shop for my kits and other collectibles. Her conditions are that first, I don't spend all my money on just the hobby. Second, that it doesn't come between my time with her. It wasn't always like this though. It took me awhile to convince her. My suggestion is try talking to her about the hobby as you need to make her understand that although she's important to you, the hobby is also something you love. If she loves you, then she'll accept that. Just make sure that the hobby doesn't come first and then her second...unless you plan to start another One Year War in your own home.  My two cents. ;D |
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Post by JQ on Jan 19, 2007 23:50:10 GMT 8
Married guy here, we also have a baby. I'm an avid Gundam kit collector too, back when I was still single. Back then, I used to buy a kit every month. After transferring to a different place because of my job, I stopped and gave away all my kits to my friends. Now that I'm back in Manila, I started the hobby again but I got married after a few months. Here's my say on the matter: Getting married will really set you back on your hobby. But what's more important, your family or your hobby? Obviously, it's your family. Slow down on your collection dude, there are more important things in life than collecting kits. Remember, this is a hobby, not a necessity. Prioritize the better and most important things in your life so that you and your family will get along, together with your Gundam hobby of course.  |
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Post by zephyranthes on Jan 20, 2007 6:25:05 GMT 8
Well, I'd ask my self the following questions:
1. Do I have enough money to keep collecting and still be financially stable with regards to family needs?
2. Do I spend more quality time with my family and only build things when I'm free from any obligations?
3. Do I have enough space to organize my collection?
If you answered "yes" to all of the above questions, I think you should continue. But, if your wife still insists that you stop for some unknown reason, choose her. <.<
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Post by raps on Jan 20, 2007 7:00:58 GMT 8
FACT: After getting married, the probabilities are high that you will slow down, if not completely stop, you hobby. PREVENTION: Only way to prevent this is if (1) you have lots of disposable income left even after attending to your marital obligations, (2) your wife actually likes your hobby as much as you do, (3) you hobby is actually your source of income. GOOD INDICATIONS: (1) Income level way above average, (2) wife even buys the stuff for you BAD INDICATIONS: (1) Current income level supports only your own spending habits, (2) wife is silent/has no comment about your hobby WHAT YOU REALLY NEED TO THINK ABOUT: Are you willing to give this up for her? ON THE OTHER HAND: You also need to consider what you are getting from the marriage, in exchange for losing the hobby, like a new life, a constant companion, sex on demand, etc. LEGAL ADVICE: If you still go ahead, after all this, and you still want to try to maintain your hobby, sign a Pre-nuptial Agreement. I like that suggestion a pre-nup agreement.... hehehe!!! thanks so much for elaborating, it really helps, not just for me but to the other guys on board.... I guess in a long run I might as well give-up my hobby.... And keep or display the stuff that I have... |
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Post by raps on Jan 20, 2007 7:17:43 GMT 8
Not yet married but I guess I'm one of the few who has a gf who actually supports my hobby. She's often with me whenever I go shop for my kits and other collectibles. Her conditions are that first, I don't spend all my money on just the hobby. Second, that it doesn't come between my time with her. It wasn't always like this though. It took me awhile to convince her. My suggestion is try talking to her about the hobby as you need to make her understand that although she's important to you, the hobby is also something you love. If she loves you, then she'll accept that. Just make sure that the hobby doesn't come first and then her second...unless you plan to start another One Year War in your own home. My two cents. ;D Your a lucky guy,... And I guess it was hard to convince her... I've done that but sometimes I got an odd look from her I know she does'nt understand it but she's trying to accept my hobby... I hope if we got married she'll not gonna throw my gundams... I have to be a newtype to sense it hehehe!!! |
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