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Post by archaznable on Nov 9, 2005 7:13:06 GMT 8
are there any ways you can know if the girl has a 2nd party instead of you or not? even if you are still together for about a year.  |
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Post by Adelaine on Nov 9, 2005 9:58:41 GMT 8
Unfortunately, no. Depende sa babae yun e. Well, a telltale sign is if she stops communicating with you, or she's not communicating with you as often... it's always a bad sign but it could mean several different things.
Oh, and I really just have to say this, so all you guys, please listen. This is something that you have to undestand about the way girls think when it comes to relationships.
This kind of thinking takes its roots from Philippine society. Times are changing, of course it's always a case to case basis, but in general: ang babae, hindi nanliligaw. Tinuturo sa amin ng aming mga nanay, "Anak, magpakabait ka, unahin mo muna ang pag-aaral mo, trabaho muna, ang pagbo-boyfriend mamaya na 'yan. Hwag mong ibibigay ang sarili mo sa kahit sinong lalaki ng basta-basta, mamili ka at marami dyan sa labas, mag-iingat ka. Tandaan mo ang pagsisisi ay laging nasa huli." That kind of thinking has been pounded into our heads since before we hit puberty.
Girls are picky, at dapat lang naman. Kami ang nagiging nanay e. Hinahanap namin ang security. Hindi lang kung magkakasundo kayo ang hinahanap ng babae, titingnan din nya kung kaya mo syang buhayin.
Hindi mo kami masisisi kung demanding kami. Unless may engagement ring na at magpapakasal na kayo, hindi mo masisisi ang isang babae kung tumitingin sya ng iba. May double-standards talaga, dapat habang nanliligaw ka hindi ka pwedeng may ibang natitipuhan, pero ang babae ay maghahanap at maghahanap. Natural lang yan. Kung iisipin mo ay patas rin lang naman, kasi pag ikaw ay nanligaw, ibig sabihin non ay nakapili ka na. Kapag sa babae ay may nanligaw, ibig sabihin non ay may pagpipilian na sya.
And just like guys, not all girls are on the same maturity level. Merong iba dyan na hindi pa talaga handa sa isang relationship pero since may nanliligaw na, eh, bakit hindi muna nya tanggapin ngayon at mag-break na lang sila mamaya?
Like I said, it's always a case-to-case basis. But it's an insight into the way some girls think.
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Post by patacat on Nov 9, 2005 13:59:24 GMT 8
Ganito yon, and I can say this from experience: How much pain you experience now is going to be how happy you are when things finally come together for you.i sure hope this is true |
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Post by Checkmate! on Nov 9, 2005 15:13:57 GMT 8
Ganito yon, and I can say this from experience: How much pain you experience now is going to be how happy you are when things finally come together for you.i sure hope this is true I HOPE SO TOO. i'm currently heart broken. as in mag 4 day pa lang now. |
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Post by blitz da gangsta on Nov 9, 2005 20:32:09 GMT 8
My general rule would be:
Do your best in the relationship but....ALWAYS GET THE UPPER HAND.
As I said before....by the way I stand corrected...it actually takes 42 muscles to put up that frown when somebody makes you sad because you got screwed but takes 5 muscles or less to raise that middle finger. Letting go is nice but it's also a bit nice to get a lil revenge.
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Post by archaznable on Nov 9, 2005 21:32:41 GMT 8
As for my part in a relationship:
Always be honest with each other open up and talk always lay down your arms. talk like down to earth and never be shy in that way you will have no problem with each other and another thing is important is respect with each other. Kung san ka masaya supportahan nalang taka.
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Post by Anakin Skywalker on Nov 9, 2005 21:41:37 GMT 8
@ Anakin: regarding same output, its possible she like what she likes and/or maybe have experience being dump but of course she is not and likely won't do anything she may regret in the future. And yes I too, believe that God has plan for each of us. I heard from people joking that uptill now I still don't have a girlfriend/wife its maybe my past life I made peace with my partner and we may have gone on our each seperate ways. But who know, right? She maybe here in our country or maybe out there in another country.  @ Patacat: I know what you mean and I understand. At least she should have said something in the end. I may have seated myself with the other girls in our class but I still talked to her. She could at least called me, tell me over the phone if she is to shy to talk about it in school. While typing these, one would thought that I missed her but in fact the anger somehow seem to be growing again. I can see them again in my mind, the image of them doing it and she happen to be on top of him. (excuse me but I need to go out and hit my fist against the wall to relieve the anger that has built up in me). The best revenge is, make yourself happy and forget the past for now. Tutal, for all you know, she may be in a more hearth-ache suffering that you have? i should know, my third ex is claming to be happy, but in truth. she is a whreck bcoz sh choose the wrong guy hehe Give it sum time. You'll be alright when the time comes.  don't waist your time on being sorry for yourself. Find that better gal for ya instead... and you will never know, if she might be around the coner and same as mine. ^_^ Hope for the best for ya man. ^_^ so cheer up. ^_^ Uhm, I'm am anime fan, and I'm a cosplayer........... On the first comment, well, yes i will not lie about it. But well in any consolation, Well, i didn't said that i fully don't trust CPs... but, its more like, I want to get to know them first. to see who they raly are first... in other words, well, i give them a chance first. But it doesen't mean i will give my full trust right away aether. ^_ ^ only time can tell really, right? Its better to be honest, rather to lie to a friend on how you feel right And it doesn't mean, i never will turst CPs. i still have sum friend at the CPs. But they figure it out on what i ment by it... as for what i ment is, most of the Orocan CPs peePz there who i know, are the ones that i don't trust "fully". not technicaly all and fully..  like, YD&waa worst! peepz ever! i know. hehe to fix this up, wel there are bad seeds on good thing anyway one bad apple can rotten the whole basket. Its only up to us really, to go to the right path and soso to speake. minsan, nadadamay rin yung di-bulok, yung mababait tlaga, parang ganun lang what i mean to that one.  not dirc ecting on pepz and yung ex ko yng anime fan and CP hehe As for the second one, Its irronic but true. and kung kayo talaga, kahit total opposite kayo you'll endup being together right? it just happend sumtimes. ^_^ |
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Post by patacat on Nov 10, 2005 16:50:46 GMT 8
I HOPE SO TOO. i'm currently heart broken. as in mag 4 day pa lang now. dude, i feel for you man. 4 days? things might get worse before they get any better. ako nga 4 months na and im just starting to get over it. kun pwede lng mag inuman sa boards damayan kita e . |
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Post by Uberjam on Nov 10, 2005 19:43:29 GMT 8
its possible, especially if the foundation of friendship is strong, then former lovers can also be good friends. but of course this does not apply to all, and in fact i think only a few achieved this level of friendship with a former lover.
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Post by patacat on Nov 10, 2005 19:49:03 GMT 8
its possible, especially if the foundation of friendship is strong, then former lovers can also be good friends. but of course this does not apply to all, and in fact i think only a few achieved this level of friendship with a former lover. uh huh. wat he said. just to add; sometimes it takes time for friendships to form again. if the two had a good friendship, a good break up (sometimes even if it is a bad break up) then sooner or later they can be back to being friends. who knows maybe back to being lovers after being friends again. ive seen it happen |
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Post by Uberjam on Nov 10, 2005 19:54:49 GMT 8
ay dagdag din ako... just like what you said twisted "THE GENERAL RULE IS... THERE IS NO GENERAL RULE!", anything could happen.
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Post by archaznable on Nov 10, 2005 20:00:22 GMT 8
mga bro do you believe in a saying that "love is sweeter than the second time around"?
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Post by patacat on Nov 10, 2005 21:22:34 GMT 8
mga bro do you believe in a saying that "love is sweeter than the second time around"? is this with the same person or another? heck, it might not matter. kun its the same person, yes it could be. kc if you got back together then you truly love each other and you wont allow anything to get in between the two of you again. then again ive seen relationships fall apart the second time around so you can never tell. |
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Post by Anakin Skywalker on Nov 10, 2005 22:41:42 GMT 8
I HOPE SO TOO. i'm currently heart broken. as in mag 4 day pa lang now. dude, i feel for you man. 4 days? things might get worse before they get any better. ako nga 4 months na and im just starting to get over it. kun pwede lng mag inuman sa boards damayan kita e . Just read it. ok ka lang man? anyway, Hdon't let these thing over-power you ok? it will all be aright soon. to arch and patacat and uber: well, sumtimes it does and sumtimes it don't i've been in both situations. ( man... Do i experience it alot?) Anyway, my second gf is still a friend of mine while my 3rd curse me at the start. but now is tring to say she was sorry a long time back. But i still remember my 3rd ex, saying these exact same words, ' Di kita "boyfriend", Boy... "Friend" ka lang!' when she broke up with me and she even said that, She never was my gf... so she can justify on what she did to me. Anyway, put me down alot for a while... but in the good news is, i end up on being on top of the wheel again. after being sad for a long time. ( diba, the saying, "Parang gulong lang ang buhay? minsan, nasbaba ka, minsan nasa taas ka naman.") its all amatter of time to heal pain and Get back at those who wrong you. ^_^ so this thing about friends from a couple, is a es and a no answer tlaga. |
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Post by Adelaine on Nov 11, 2005 5:40:35 GMT 8
That is just so true.
Most cases I've seen, it's easier for both parties if the relationship is broken off cleanly, especially if they went pretty far as lovers. But there are some that remain good friends, although the friendship definitely won't be the same way as before.
Like you said, there's no general rule. ;D
There's no guarantee!
I think it really doesn't matter. The thing is, if you've been in several relationships, you can't help comparing them. For some people, it's "first love that never dies," while some find that "third time pays for all," or "fifth time's the charm," and some experience a sweeter love the second time around.
A lot of girls in "breakups" really deny ever having made the relationship formal. Personally I never could understand that (hey fellow girls, can anyone explain it to me? XD).
I think maybe sometimes guys tend to read into a girl's actions and assumes that they're in a relationship when the girl doesn't actually think so. It's happened a lot to two of my best friends; the guy simply assumes they're a couple because the girl is naturally sweet (and hasn't explicitly dumped him yet), when the girl never once thought they were a couple.
Girls usually don't assume, you have to flat-out ask them in very clear words, "we're officially a couple". If it's not official, she may not consider it a formal relationship, and will have an excuse to deny you if you ever break up. And a "maybe" is NOT a "yes"!!
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like, YD&waa worst! peepz ever! i know. hehe to fix this up, wel there are bad seeds on good thing anyway one bad apple can rotten the whole basket. Its only up to us really, to go to the right path and soso to speake. minsan, nadadamay rin yung di-bulok, yung mababait tlaga, parang ganun lang what i mean to that one. 
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